Hanna

Megan

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Let’s do this…

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All right… Hi, I’m Megan.

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Hi. I’m Hanna.

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We are welcoming you. Welcome.

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To our first real medi-episode of: “Hey Mama, I have questions.”

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It’s very exciting and weird.

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So exciting.

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So we just wanted you guys to get to know us a little bit.

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We want to explain our relationship, where we got the idea for doing this show and

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how it, sort of, evolved and became what we’re planning for it to be.

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I’m sure it will evolve further on down the line.

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So strap in, here we go, we’re gonna do that for a little bit.

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You’ll get to hear all about our deep and intense love for each other.

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It’ a little weird. And it’s fine. 

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And we are soulmates. And also not gay for each other. But that’s fine.

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Not what for each other?

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Not gay for each other. We are not in a romantic relationship, is what I was trying to get across for that.

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Okay, yes.

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Although… if… anyway. We’ll get there.

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This is a great introduction.

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This is… It’s starting off perfectly.

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Yeah, so we have been friends for…

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I always get the chills when you call me your friend, I don’t like it. But we’ll get into that.

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It’s weird, it’s fine, we’ll get there, too.

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We’ve known each other now for thirteen years. And I think almost exactly thirteen years.

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Because I think it was in January that I asked to talk to you in school and asked you if I could come live with you.

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Because I was an exchange student, in Germany, where Hanna is from. In 2007/ 2008.

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I had a host family, but we went to the same school.

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And my family had an exchange student from Brazil, that Megan was friends with, so we knew each other through her.

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Yeah, we were aware of each other. I don’t know that we had met. Like, I had been over to your house before, to visit my friend.

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So, we had met, but we didn’t really know each other.

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But then I had to move out of my host family’s house. For many various reasons, that we don’t need to go into.

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And I had no idea where to go. And so I asked Hanna if I could come and stay with her for a little bit.

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And obviously her parents were involved in that decision. At the time we were – like eighteen – but still, we were children.

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And it was their house. So…

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Yeah. So her family took me in.

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And after they moved in my way too much stuff,  your Mum was like: 

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“You’re not moving out, because I’m not moving all of that stuff again. You’re just staying”

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Yeah, because it was like two sets of stairs. And the second on e a really narrow one.

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And I didn’t have boxes for moving. So I just had my suitcases and like bags and shoe boxes for all my stuff.

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So, anyway. I lived with Hanna’s family for about six moths.

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And we just got really close.

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And so we were sisters. And we are sisters.

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That’s what I call her. Which is why I don’t like “friends”. But, we’ll get there.

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And I have a biological sister. So it sometimes gets confusing with people that I talk to who don’t know, that I have a non-biological sister.

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So, I sometimes skip to friend, if I’m not interested in explaining the whole situation.

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But it’s cool. We’ve talked about it and she’s not overly upset about it. As long as, if it’s an important person, I tell them who she is.

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Yeah, I know how you feel about me, I’m not really upset about it. I just, I don’t know, have a reaction to it, when you say that.

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And, the reason that Hanna is phenomenally and stupidly good at English, is because she:

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One: is really good at languages.

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And two: was also an exchange student in the U.S. before I was and exchange student in Germany.

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So she was an exchange student in the U.S. and then we met, when I was an exchange student in Germany.

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And how many times have we said “exchange student” now.

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It’s a drinking game. Drink every time we say “exchange student”.

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So, that’s how we know each other. 

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And since that time, we have been able, miraculously, to maintain…

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That’s my baby, by the way. You can probably hear him.

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He’s with a babysitter. I have not left him in another room by himself.

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But he will probably make noises throughout the time, that we are recording.

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… He’s so loud.

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I think I learned how to cut… well, not cut that out, but I think, maybe we won’t hear him.

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Make it less loud? Okay, good. Well then, maybe it’s not a problem.

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Either way.

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Okay. So, since we met and lived together, in your parents house in Germany,

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we have been continuing to be really close. And we’ve been able to see each other a few times.

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Like every few years, really. It’s been kind of amazing.

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Well, between your wedding an my wedding,  it was more like… every six… no, that’s also a lie… but, a lot.

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It’s been a lot. Especially in the past few years we have seen each other a lot.

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Cause I got married, and then you got married and I was there for Oma’s (Grandma) 80th birthday…

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Before I got married, I surprised her…

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That’s right! And you came for my 30th birthday…

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Yeah. As a surprise. That was amazing.

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Wow. Since 2016 we’ve seen each other a lot. For two people, that live on opposite sides of the globe.

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Which is also, by the way, why Hanna is in total darkness and I’m in full daylight.

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Because it’s winter, so it’s nighttime in Germany, now.

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So yeah, that’s how we know each other. And we talk to each other about anything and everything.

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She is the person that I talk to when I’m afraid that other people will make fun of me for what I have to say. Or judge me or think poorly of me.

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And so I’m really grateful for you. I think you’re awesome.

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I think you’re awesome! And I wanna jump in here, ’cause that’s a perfect transition to the podcast.

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Yeah, go for it.

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Because: same here. 

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Megan is… you probably know Grey’s Anatomy… I refer to Megan as…when I don’t say “sister”, I say she’s my person.

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Because she’s the one that, like she said, I say anything to.

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I come to with anything and everything.

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Cuz I feel completely safe with her.

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I’m not afraid that she’s gonna judge me.

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You know those thoughts, that you’re like: “Boy, I wonder anyone else wonders about this. I wonder if anyone else has ever had a weird thought like this.”

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So you want to talk to someone about it but you’re like: “If I say this out loud, they’re gonna put a straitjacket on me, roll their eyes, never talk to me again,”… you choose.

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We’re afraid of talking about certain things, because we’re afraid of judgement and being cast out of the group.

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That’s a very primal thing.

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Okay, never mind, I’m not gonna get into it.

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So, I noticed… this was, I think, two years ago. 

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I noticed, that I only had these conversations with Megan. 

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And that I though, that that was very unfortunate.

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I mean, I’m very happy and grateful, that I have this one person, that I can have these conversations with, and speak these thoughts out loud.

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But I thought: What a sad world, that we don’t do that on a bigger scale. That we’re afraid to do that.

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And that’s how we came up with the first idea of a podcast two years ago.

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Where we said we would like to be a lighthouse. Is that a saying in English, too?

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A Lighthouse? No, I don’t think so.

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Okay, so that’s a German thing. Never mind.

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That we wanna be an example. We want… 

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We were saying: Let’s be vulnerable. Let’s be an example. Let’s put these…

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Basically, just turn on a microphone when we talk to each other and put these conversations out there.

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And show that…

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And be messy, and make mistakes. And say things, that are not cool. And figure out… And learn from that.

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Learn from each other and learn from the reactions of people listening.

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Because, like Megan said, we have a very strong love for each other and we know, that that will never be shook by anything.

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We disagree. We agree on a lot of things and on core values, as Megan said so nicely in the last episode. But we also disagree on many things.

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But that is never a problem. And that’s why we feel so safe with each other.

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And that’s what we wish for the rest of the world. I think we would have world peace if we could talk like this.

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Everything always comes back to world peace, right?

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Yeah. I don’t know about world peace, but I think we could have a much better and kinder discourse.

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Obviously, I live in the U.S. and the U.S. right now does not have a kind or open discourse. 

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Right now, meaning, January 2021.

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Yeah, here we are. Man, we were waiting for 2020 to be over and here we are in 2021…

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Who knows, maybe by February, everything will be fixed. Or maybe by the time this goes up, everything will be better.

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But, we want to be a space and have conversations that are thoughtful and are intended to be caring of other people,

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while at the same time feeling safe to say the thing that we are not sure is okay and then maybe get corrected.

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In a kind way. In a kind and loving way.

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In a kind way. Please be kind.

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That’s our goal. 

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If we can help someone figure out how to have this kind of conversation with the people that they love or their friends and family, who they do have disagreements with and who they have trouble. 

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Being okay with those disagreements. Or having conversations around those disagreements.

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And we just wanted to have the conversations, have the conflict come up and navigate it lovingly.

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And then hopefully helping other people to figure out how to lovingly navigate those disagreements with love.

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So that was our original idea. I’m sorry, I jumped in.

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No, liked it a lot, thanks.

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I just wanted to add; I had a thought, when you talked about the disagreements.

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I wanted to say that, I think it’s important to disagree and to have these kinds of conversations. 

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That you can disagree and then, in a kind and loving way, put awareness to…

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Now I’m stumbling on my own… Okay, I’m gonna start that over.

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When you talked about disagreements I had a thought, that I wanted to put in here: 

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That I think it’s important for evolving. For us, as a society, as the human race. 

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To be able to evolve, we need to disagree about things and have discourse.

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If we just agree about everything and not talk about it, we’ll be here forever.

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That was just a thought.

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Agree. I agree. That we should disagree.

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Thanks. Agree to disagree, yeah.

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So that was an idea two years ago. 

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And then we didn’t go through with it, ’cause there were other projects, that got into the way.

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And… Megan has a child.

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Sure did. Turns out: Getting pregnant, and having a baby, takes up a lot of brain space.

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And time.

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And time. Good Lord.

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But that actually brought us back to the podcast. Because… 

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…and I think, you should take the reins here. Because, what?

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Thank you. 

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Because there is so much to learn about. And read about. And google. And ask people about.

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Around pregnancy and then… Good Lord, even more, once that little nugget is out in the world and you have to make decisions about it.

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And there’s so many different ways to do it. And there’s so many different opinions.

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And convictions around how it should be done. And how to make sure, that your child is safe and not to cause it harm.

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And how to do it sustainably. And how to raise your child to be a good person.

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And what’s healthy, and what’s not healthy. And what the science says. 

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And what everyday life demands of you to do, that might not be in line with all the rules. 

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There’s so many rules. There’s so many rules!

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So, I thought, and Hanna thought. I think it was your idea in the end. We were like: We should talk about this!

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And I think, part of the reason that our original podcast didn’t go on was, all of the things, that you said, but also, because it’s so broad.

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Like, the whole world? We’re just gonna talk about everything?

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And so, this was a great way, to step into having difficult conversations, while also having a focus.

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And, we’re both obsessed with it right now.

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I have been for years. I don’t even have children yet, and I’ve been obsessed with this topic for years.

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Yeah. Speaking of which: postpartum hair loss. We’ll get into that. But: I have so much hair coming out of my head.

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Yeah, so: I am trying to figure out, how to support my six month old.

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He’s six months tomorrow! My six month old baby.

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And I also have so many thoughts on pregnancy and what I went through and what I’ve seen other people go through.

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So, you know: We could talk for years about this stuff.

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And there is a lot of mom content out there.

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So we are hoping to have these conversations in the way, that we wanted to have other difficult conversations. 

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And have those conversations about pregnancy and birth and parenting a baby. Or many babies.

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By the end, we might have a whole gaggle of little ones.

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Depending on how long this podcast goes… yeah, that’s the plan.

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Yeah. Yeah, so that’s the plan. 

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And if that sounds interesting and exciting to you, we hope that you will listen to us.

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Like I said, I’m a mom, I had a baby in July of 2020. He’s a boy. 

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We’re not gonna use his name and if and when Hanna has kids on the podcast, we probably also won’t use their names.

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The internet is a big place and it’s still new and still scary. So, I’m gonna keep him off of that as long as I can.

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And also, just, he doesn’t have a choice in the matter. So, I prefer to let him make the decision of when he shares himself publicly.

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When he is cognitively able to do that.

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So that’s the plan. 

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Where to go from here?

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So, the plan is, to have an episode for you every Thursday. We hope you’ll like it.

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If you do, please fell free to comment on our instagram.

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Oh yeah: we also have an instagram. With the same handle: @heymamaihavequestions.

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We have a YouTube. If you’re watching this video, you already know that.

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If you’re just listening to the episode on a podcast forum: We have a YouTube for accessibility reasons.

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Also: so you can see our beautiful faces.

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Yes, in very different lighting. Because we’re in very different time zones.

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Also: If we don’t get to the subtitles, please give us some grace. Because this is a lot of work, turns out.

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Yeah, captions are a lot of work.

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We thing they’re important and we’re happy to do the work. But right now, Hanna is doing all the work.

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Yeah, so, I mean, the captions are really the reason we are putting this on YouTube. Because we want this to be accessible for anyone who wants to consume it.

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But, I may not always get to looking through them and correcting them.

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But, I learned recently, that apparently you can allow anyone to do that. 

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So, if you wanna help out with that, we’re totally fine with that. Feel free!

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So if you like us, please do that.

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Much appreciated.

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Yeah. We have a website with the same name: heymamaihavequestions.com

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Where… Just take a look.

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We are many places. Come and find us wherever you like.

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We are many places. It feel like all of them. I know it’s not all of them yet, but I can’t handle anymore right now.

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So, yeah. Thank you for listening. And we hope, that you’ll tune in again. Bye!

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Yeah! We’ll talk to you next week! Bye!


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